My friends daughter is seeing a man who is all black with a white band across his forehead,smoking a cigarette.The smoke is rising striaght up in front of his face.He is standing in the same area of the house each time.The man then turns into a spider and crawls along the wall. She is sure that this is not a dream.

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Oh my, that would scare me so bad. Is she the only one who sees him? Hope you find a way to help her out. Eep.

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Sounds like another shadow person, a type of ghost.

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Take some time to get all the detail and write down the main specific points of what she is seeing, example:

man
cigarette
smoke
face
spider
crawls
wall

Determine if they are person, action, object, etc --- and get a dream dictionary and see if it tells a story at all.

On dream I had, I kept waking up in a 2nd floor apartment with the fire alarm going off and I'd have to run down the stairs...by piecing it out with the dream dictionary I pretty much figured that it was telling me that in order to find the root cause to my issues I'd need to go deeper into my subconscious -- or that I was already doing that.

Waking visions can be handled in the same manner. Another thing to consider is that she is not seeing a spirit but residual energy --- that he is in the same spot every time and the same thing happens over and over again; it could be a 'marker' of events that somebody left in order for somebody to figure out the message....pay attention to where the spider is going into the wall,etc and do an inspection of the house, ground and so forth.

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Wow either she is hallucinating or that is some bad poltergeist haunting your house. That sounds kind of scary, best of luck to you.

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Call George Norry on Coast to Coast AM. Late night radio. They always talk about happenings like this vision.

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I hate to be a wet blanket since there is so much of that in he paranormal today.
BUT...
If you look in the dark long enough you can see all kinds of shapes and things that go bump. It's very easy for an active imagination to turn it into something it may not be. For a spirit to materialize take an awful lot of energy. I don't know if they have enough to change into a spider too. I mean, what would be the point?

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