how do i tell my dad i disagree with his lifestyle?

tmhangel · #1 20-07-2007, 08:18

my dad is transgendered, and i completely disagree with this. ive been lying to him for years, but i can lie anymore. how can i talk to him?

vanessa c · #2 20-07-2007, 08:19

hes a big boy,,,you can vent, but it wont change him.

Scarzi · #3 20-07-2007, 08:19

Why can't you just be happy because he's happy?

*kaitlyn* · #4 20-07-2007, 08:20

dad
i
disagree
with ur
lifestyle
{jawdropps}
SYKE!!

drop hints like the one above

Ramone · #5 20-07-2007, 08:20

What is there to disagree with. Its the way he is. If it wasnt for him you would have no life and no opportunity to agree or disagree with anything. Whatever he is you owe him your life. Or you can throw away your relationship you have with him by letting him know that you have judged him and he is guilty. Maybe you should try to understand him and see things from his perspective before you blacklist him.

Michael B · #6 20-07-2007, 08:20

So your sudden need to clear the air is more important than the feelings of your father? Isn't that kind of selfish? If your father is transgendered, it's not a "lifestyle." It's the way he was born. What does it matter if you agree or disagree? It's your father, he was born that way, he can't change it, and your disapproval of him will only make him feel bad. Leave it and direct your excess energy to something that will actually help people.

Tess · #7 20-07-2007, 08:20

You have to tell him. You have to let him know that you disagree but that you still accept him for who he is, because at the end of the day that's what life is about, accpeting someone 'unconditionally'. That is ultimate love.

little boy pete · #8 20-07-2007, 08:20

Thats sad, Try talking to him about his lifestyle and tell him how you feel about it, Sorry you have to put up with this crap lifestyle, I hope he changes.

munkees81 · #9 20-07-2007, 08:21

Get it off your chest, because it will only get worse. I don't know much about transgendered people, but I believe in experiencing before judging. Meaning, maybe you should try and learn more about it before you get angry with him. He is who he is, but he will always be your Dad. You may not agree with him, but you need to find a way to relieve the feelings you have or you will carry them to the day you die.

Rachel Green · #10 20-07-2007, 08:23

Let it go, its his life, can you even fathom what it would be like to feel you're in the wrong "body" and must act a certain way that you don't agree with, what is someone forced you to act, dress,, and live as the opposite sex, could you maintain that? How closed minded can you be? I feel so sorry for your father, he has an empty space where a daughter/son used to be. Shame on you!

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