What do I tell my parents? I have to get out of this one! Help me.?

I am a person · #1 24-06-2007, 19:15

My parents are really strict and won't let me date until 21 and stuff but I am not one of those little goody-two-shoes who listens to their parents. I had my first boyfriend when I was 12 and they didn't know because they have been in and out of my life anyways so yea I have had A LOT of boyfriends and stuff in the past but they found out that I am going on a date with this guy tomorrow and are not letting me go. They read my text messages and are mad and not letting me go out with him. What do I say I don't have a cellphone anymore and I am so not waiting until 21. I am planning on getting married at 21 not starting to date. What do I do?Oh well I am 16.

nex_nox_noctus · #2 24-06-2007, 19:25

You should tell your parents calmly and maturely that you're going to see people if you want to, because you're responsible and you're not going to do anything that they wouldn't want you to. You have more sense and self control than that.After you've fed them that bullshit . . .The fact is, you're going to be dating either way, so they might as well give you the consent and set down some guidelines or something. Yet while they may be wrong on that point, getting married at 21 (or, at least PLANNING at your age to get married at 21) is a really BAD idea. This is coming from a guy who got married to a 24 year-old when I was 18. I figured surely SHE has to be mature enough, she's six years older than me! Still, though I was ready and did everything I could right, she cheated on me-- THREE times. Getting married that young isn't necessarily wrong because YOU'RE not ready, but because you haven't really had enough time to meet enough people to make a decision about who is best for you.In other words, wait until you've had a chance to date several people before you even consider getting married.

Guy5250 · #3 24-06-2007, 19:45

Its not like you have total control over your parents, but tell them that you have the right to date somebody whenever you want, and its not like they have complete control over you either.

Pari · #4 24-06-2007, 19:55

wow you seem to be screwed... um have you tried to cover it up. maybe try saying something like it wasn't a date we have to do a project for school / work. if that won't work just try to convince them that you aren't doing anything stupid like getting pregnant or living with the guy they probably just need reassurance that you won't change im pretty sure that will work.

Kelsey H · #5 24-06-2007, 20:05

Try to compromise and go on a group date.

Some Gurl · #6 24-06-2007, 20:16

Just wondering how old are you? I think that both you and your parents need to go get some counselling and set up more proper rules and boundaries for you. Obviously you have to respect your parents rules but they shouldn't be so strict. There is such a thing as compromise. Good luck.

piper h · #7 24-06-2007, 20:35

tell them how you feel and that you are old enough to make your own decisions

bridgetize05 · #8 24-06-2007, 20:46

Sounds like you're a bit of a rebel, so your parents forbidding you won't do a thing lol.If you're sure they won't budge, you'll just have to re schedule your date for another time. As far as contacting him, try e-mail or call one of your friends (that your parents know) and give him/her the number to call him and explain.Talk to your parents and figure out why they won't let you date, and try to reason with them. I suggest asking your mom rather than your dad since dads are usually over-protective.And just don't tell them about your dating life. My dad used to joke that I couldn't date til I was 30!I'm not sure what you mean by "in and out of your life" but if you have other parental figures who you care about more, listen to them instead. Oh, and don't plan on getting married at a certain age, just wait for the right man.Good luckwww.scarletteen.com

lonelyfinger · #9 24-06-2007, 21:05

your folks are just acting natural. the best thing you can do is telling them exactly how you feel and what your plans are.

badmikey4 · #10 24-06-2007, 21:15

Tell your mom as a young woman you will choose to date if you so wish. It is perfectly normal and acceptable at your age and helps prepare you for future relationships.

Hottie · #11 24-06-2007, 21:25

well ask your mom or dad what if?

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