My son is completely obsessed with video games and anime.Its like he lives in a little dream world.....he failed 9th grade twice and eventually dropped out...He wont bathe, he smells horrible. he listens to high pitched voiced girls singing in japanese all the time! hes up until 6 in the morning and sleeps all day. wakes up and starts again.He destroyed my marriage. im divorced. he lives with his father.We dont know what to do with him. he is now 19. no job. no high school. he just sits and watches anime and plays games all day.And like his friends have like role playing things over the phone for 6 hours and there names are like bakanyuubaka and crap like that.I dont know what to do!!!!!!1THis is driving me crazy!His fathers about to kick him out of the house and i know this may sound horrible but i dont want my son to live with me because he is almost 20, and never had a job or anything!ive even found anime pornography!WHAT SHOULD I DO????

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this is addiction. he needs help to break out of it, but of course, he has got to want to break out, but with no hope of a better future, of course he would prefer to stay in a make believe world where he has some control.the control was yours (both parents of course, not just one party) when he was younger, but a lot of parents were IT illiterate and unaware or unable to handle this sort of 'harmless' addiction. so now it's serious addiction and whether he comes out of it or not, the prognosis is not good.if he is kicked out, you can take him in, but only on your terms. otherwise, you'll just be keeping him in his state of addiction.go and seek counselling and addiction help.

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It sounds like he is using the game world to escape his. It could be for any number of reasons. A lot of kids build confidence in the game world that they feel they can't achieve in the real world. It is sad that so much time has passed before you reached out for help. It is reversible but it will take a professional at this point. And now would not be the time to abandon him. You can't change the past, but there should have been a healthy balance between his gaming and the real world. Now he is at the point where he feels only his gaming friends understand him and that is why there is role playing. The japanese anime brings in another culture where there is very little discretion and inhibition. This is too, another outlet. I really suggest you get him to a professional, one that will make him understand reality and start to believe in himself, not one that is an advocate against video games. If you get one that is against video games, your son will not listen to him and no benefit will be gained. Just a note to you. Video games are not bad. They can teach a lot. It is all in the genre of the games that are selected. For instance, my eight year old is allowed to play a role playing game for no more than 2 hours per day. She has learned to type, spell better, and interact with other people.

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