Here is the story. My mother was married and got pregnant but got divorced before I was born. Shortly there after (when I was 18 mos) she married my father who "adopted" me and raised me as his child. I have no desire to find my birth father and feel it would be disrespectful to my father who rasied me as his child with love and care for all those years to do so. What do you think about situations such as these? Just curious what the consensus is.Just wanted to add a little bit here after I got some answers. I am not looking to find my birht father at all. I have no desire to do so. I know what my opinion of the subject is and I think it would be extremely disrespectful to my father to do so. I was jsut curious how other people thought of situations such as these.

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I feel I can answer this question. I too am adopted, as are my brother and two sisters. None of us are biologically related. I have always known I was adopted. I have never been curious as to who my birth parents are. I always felt that there was a reason I was put up for adoption and my turning up after 'x' amount of years seemed wrong. My sister looked up her birth parents, only to be very disappointed about what she found out. It also hurt my parents somewhat. I will turn 50 this year...my parents both passed within the last two years..they are sorely missed. No, I have no desire to find my birth parents, I feel it would not benefit anyone. Hope this helps.

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I am an adoptive mother to three girls. To me, it would not be rude at all if they eventually decide to search for their birth families. It is only natural for an adopted child to be curious about their original family, and want to see what they look like. I would certainly feel that way if I were adopted myself. And my children will not hurt my feelings at all if they make the decision to search in the future.

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I don't think it is rude to look up your birth parents, there are many reasons that it is done with one of the important questions being, what is my background (medical, ancestry, etc.) and another question that comes up is why did you give me up.I am adopted and so is my sister (from two different families), I have no desire to look up my birth parents, but my sister did to find out medical history. My parents (adoptive parents) have always told both of us that it was our choice if we wanted to look and they would always support us.It has to be your choice, if you don't want anything to do with your father then don't look and don't concern yourself with it. Good luck!

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Absolutely not. You do not have to give an explanation on why you would like to look/contact your birth parents. Obviously you are going to be interested and you should have the opportunity to look for the parents who took care of you while you were in the womb.

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Seeking out the truth and your own history is not rude in itself. A person's behavior, of course, can be rude in any activity. But an adopted adult who has a good relationship with his/her adoptive parents can, with respectful, kind, and truthful behavior toward everyone, search for answers.

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