adoptee), just curiosity? When some people who were adopted choose not to meet their bio 'parents', a lot of people seem to frown on this, and l just wondered why? With all due respect to bio parents, they made a choice (no judgements on that), the adoptive parents made a choice to have the child, and the 'adoptee' makes their own choice when they come of age, why do bio 'parents' often appear to think they have some sort of right to know the child that is (respectfully) no longer theirs? This is just something l've often wondered about, l mean no offense to anyone, just looking for other's thoughts here. For the record, l am an adoptee who's bio parents sought her out, l did meet them and they're nice people, so l'm not bitter, lol, but l don't have any relationship with them, l just have the one set of parents. Anyways, thanks to all who will answer!

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That's actually one of my fears. I'm a birth mom and my little girl is in a great home with loving parents. She's in open adoption so me and her bio dad are allowed to see her and spend time with her and she'll know who we are when she gets older. Giving up Ari was the hardest thing me and her father did there was aot of pain and tears but we know we did the right thing for our child. I dont have any claim on ari at all and if she gets older and decides that she doesnt want me in her life i will respect that and leave. In my opinion i just think bio parents want back the child that they gave up even though they knew what they were doing to begin with. But sometimes the child has a great life and decides they really dont want to meet there bio parents which is always there choice. Its not easy to make a choice that not only effects your future but of a whole other persons as well. I dont know what mine and ari's future will be if we will still be close are not but i know that i will always love her and that the choice i made i made for her.

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i am a biological mother. i had an open adoption and in the paper work i had it stated that i do get to meet her when she is older. i want to make sure that my daughter knows that she was perfect and that she was loved and will always be loved. i wanted her, i still do but i had to do what was best for her. i couldve had an abortion, its not against my religion. and it probably woulve been alot easier on me. but i loved my baby from the moment i knew she existed and i always will. its been 7 years and 4 days. i havent forgotten . i just have to let her know

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