For individuals opposed to gay couples adopting children. How do you respond to my statment that if the straight people that had the children were doing their jobs as parents properly there would be little need (not NO need but considerably less need) for children to go into adoptive custody.

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Gays should NOT be allowed to adopt children. A child needs a mother AND a father.You don't know what goes on that makes someone decide to give a child up for adoption. You have not been in their situation and we should not judge them.So are you saying that you are GAY because of something that your PARENTS did to make you that way? NO, it was a choice that you made on your own and I am sure that the perversion of that broke your parents heart and they are dreading the day you inform them that you are HIV positive or have full blown aids.Don't criticize a person for giving a child up for adoption so that they can have a better life or not be aborted, commend them for having the courage to do the right thing, don't criticize their parents for doing something wrong...obviously if the one giving the child up is strong enough to do this, then their parents gave them the strength to do it.

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I've answered this question several times, but I'll give it another shot.I am a psychologist that specializes in children of gay and lesbian couples, and I can tell you - there is absolutely no evidence that suggests to me that a child "needs" a mother and a father. Granted, it is the ideal situation, but two parents is two parents. I've been researching this for 16 years, and I can say, without fear or ambiguity, that children of gays and lesbians are just as mentally stable as those of heterosexuals.And Dorothy, you truly are a dim bulb.

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A lot of people choose to place their child for adoption because they did not mean to get pregnant, and a lot of biological parents did not mean to get pregnant but choose to keep their child. It doesn't matter what the motivation is - nobody has the right to judge them. There are a lot of people out there who cannot conceive of a child for whatever reason, including the fact that they don't have an egg and a sperm between the two of them, and they have the right to ask to raise somebody else's child. But everyone needs to understand that adoption is a difficult choice for everyone involved. Because every baby has biological roots that they will wonder about throughout their life. And every set of adoptive parents has to deal with the reality that this child has another set of real live parents out there, regardless of the circumstances. I think we should focus on creating healthy open adoptions rather than focusing on the gender of the adoptive parents. I am adopted, and I believe every human being has a right to know where they came from, and nothing should stand in their way.

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