Our 4 year old came to live with us right before his second birthday. I am his step mom, but he just knows me as mom. We also have a 2 year old now that is both of ours. Our family works well.
The problem we are having is with our 4 yr old's bio mom. She only comes to see him about once every 6 months, she never calls in advance, just knocks on our door, and expects us to allow her to take him. We live very busy lives, and she always comes at inconvenient times, although we have asked repeatedly for her to call first. We do let her take him when she comes though, because we want him to at least know who she is. Well, the last time she came by, after 8 months of not seeing him (she lives less than a mile away) Dad told her no, and we made it clear that she needs to call. We had very important plans that day.
Anyway, now she is speading rumors that we will not allow her to see him, and that we are keeping him from her...
It isn't really an issue with the rumors... we don't talk to many of the same people, and those that we do know what is really going on... Why is it too hard for her to pick up a phone though?
This is just going too far now, and we don't really know how to deal with the situation. We don't want our son growing up thinking that we kept him from his bio mom, but we do not feel we should have to put up with her games. What do you guys think?

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