My husband and i have been together for 8 long years and we recently got married in January. We have been talking about babies lately and i am really excited about it. He says he is but i think he's scared. The reason being his dad left his mom 8 months prego and didnt meet him till he was 7 years old. Even now his dad isnt that involved in his day to day life. I think he is afraid of failing at fatherhood. Last month i was late by 2 weeks and he freaked out and asked his mom what to do. His mom felt she needed to tell me & it kind of made me nervous about the whole thing. I know that he would be a good dad but i don't want him to not be happy at the same time. We haven't been preventing getting pregnant so now i am just getting nervous about telling him whenever i do conceive due to the last mishap. Am i wrong?

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Many new parents are frightened at the thought of having a child, though that are excited about it too. Buy your husband a parenting book and when you do get pregnant, involve him in all the decisions and coversations with your doctor. He still might call his mother for advice occasionally, but that is because he can't call his dad and ask for advice. Bear with him, but when the baby comes you can bet he will be as thrilled as you. Good luck.

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i think this is his problem and you arent gonna be able to fix it ..he should go to counseling and work through his dad leaving him and not being apart of his life ... and he needs to realize that just because his dad did that to him it doesnt mean he has to do that to his kids

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Your not wrong, and neither is he. It would be perfectly normal for both of you to find yourselves in this situation. You need to just sit down and have a talk with him and discuss what he thinks about having a child. Ask him what sort of father he thinks he will make and why.

He may just need to convince himself that he would be a good father, and this may take a bit of time.

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I think fatherhood puts a lot of pressure on a man; not necessarily in bad way. My husband wanted children and was thrilled when we conceived, but a little stressed at the same time. I think dads worry about being good dads just like we worry about being a good mom, being a good provider ~ be it financially, educationally, emotionally, etc. It's an awsome responsibility and it changes your whole perspective on life. It's a wonderful, wonderful thing though. It sounds as though he had kind of a rough childhood too which could add to that stress. Just be sure to keep open communication with him. It sounds like he wants children so give him as much positive support as you can.

Good Luck!!!

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