QUESTION
I have to face a very tricky situation. I am very confused. Can I date 2 guys at the same time?

My friend Julie told me that maybe you could help me to make a difficult decision. I broke off a 2 1/2 year long relationship with my ex-boyfriend, Rob, in December. The reason being was that we had an on and off relationship and I suspected him to see other women.
During our breakup I happened to meet a guy, named John. He's not really handsome, but he has plenty of charm and he makes me laugh.

I told John right away that I was coming out of a difficult long-term relationship and was not looking for anything serious. He seemed disappointed and backed off. But he kept coming to the shop and I finally accepted to go out with him. We went hill-climbing and it was great fun!
We've been dating since January and he's been talking about me moving in with him. Yet, I kept thinking about Rob, my ex. So for now, I have been spending some time with John at his apartment and he's so kind he even gave me keys to his place. Do you think I should move into his place even if I keep thinking about Rob?

The thing is that, last week, Rob, my ex-boyfriend sent me an E-card for my B-day and we met again. He seems to have changed totally. He proposed marriage to me during the dinner and he gave me a silver ring. He said that he realized he loved me and he wants me to become his wife. We drank a lot and we ended up in bed. The night was great and we made things that I had never experienced before. I love him and I feel guilty for John. Yet, I have the feeling I should stick with John, because I am not sure about Rob.

I've never been in that kind of situation, dating 2 guys at the same time. I hate it because I have the feeling I am going to lose something one way or another. I love Rob and I love John. What should I do?

ANSWER
I will be sincere with you, and I will go straight to the point. My answer is: you put yourself in a big mess. Now, it is said, I agree it's not going to help you much. Well... It's obvious you can't lead them on at the same time for long. Your feelings are mixed. And I suggest that you make like with tea: let it brew. Give it some time.

Spend more time with your new boyfriend to know him better, and find out if love can grow. Don't move definitely into his place until you're sure you can go down the road together. But you can see how it works if you spend 3/4 weeks together. Get to know one another. Flirting and living together are 2 different things.

Don't be stressed out and stop drinking. Trying to seat between 2 chairs, and you end up on the floor.

The first chair was broken, so you got another one. Now, the old chair says it's repaired. Why giving away the new chair if you haven't tested it yet? Look at it carefully. Give it some time, then follow your instincts and obey your HEART.

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QUESTION

HOW TO KNOW YOUR PARTNER

Speech is silver, silence is GOLD

How to make anyone crazy about you

ANSWER


DON'T ASK, but LISTEN

You will know more about people from their questions than from what they answer to your questions. Why? Their question comes from their heart, their own curiosity. You can almost know what they are expecting if the question is precise. To make it more precise, you can ask: "what do you mean exactly?"

Remember questions
Remember questions you were asked, their aim. Then, you will bring the topic back later on, at your advantage, or seize the chance to grasp it right away. Develop your listening skills, and recognize valuable questions.

"Do you like dogs?"
If a girl asks me with enthusiasm: "Do you like dogs?", I know right away that she grew up with a dog, that the dog has been very important to her. It's as if the girl asked me: "Do you like my brother?"
It is an important question, because it's a great way to connect. I have 2 ways to react and answer.

1. - I hate dogs! I went for a heroic run last night from the Eiffel Tower to Saint-Michel along the riverbank. I had to run the whole thing in a zigzag to avoid the copious amounts of dog shit splashed everywhere, so the actual distance covered was probably twice this!
But the real reason is that I've been bitten by a nasty bastard when I was a kid!

Do you think I'm going to connect with this one? Here I just reveal the fact that I am grumpy, bitter, angry, and scared.

2. - I love dogs! I remember when I was 10 years old, I went to live for 1 month in a farm in the French countryside. And there was that fantastic hunting dog... I think his name was Malko. He was always attached with a leach to guard the house. One day, I was given the possibility to walk him for a bit. We came back 6 hours later. We went for wonderful crazy runs throughout the fields. It was like escaping a prison camp. Then, it started to rain, but we kept on playing and running. It was so much fun. And we came back very late soaked to the skin. It's one of the best moment of my life, because I had found a great companion...

With this one, I click. And I click deep. I could speak for hours. You can see a funny light dancing in the girl's eyes.

Just by being positive, enthusiastic and bringing an anecdote from my childhood, we're getting very close as it's very important for her. I'm getting to the point where we have something in common. And sparks fly!


Do you like music?
Other example: If somebody asks you: "Do you like music?" It means that music is important for that person. You can answer "YES", even if you don't care that much, but keep it in mind for later on.

In one week, you could say: "do you like going to concerts? Yes? I knew it, why don't we go...? For a B-day gift, a CD will be better than a book.
OK?! People will love you because you will fit. They will think: "How did S/He know I really wanted to go to a concert? It's amazing! We really have things in common."

You will be the ONE they were looking for. NOT because you like music, maybe you don't give a damn about music. But simply because you were SMART enough to listen to their questions.

Don't ask too much
If people are reserved, don't come to them with a can opener. They will close down like oysters. Become part of their environment without threatening them and you will be allowed to see them opening, and see the real pearls inside of them.

No need to ask questions and questions, you will just talk a lot of hot air. Getting no answers or false responses won't get you closer from the truth. I noticed that many anxious people keep asking questions because they're worried. Their questions are so direct, that it's very easy to lead them on a wrong track. Probably why they end up very often in cul-de-sac. A flow of questions can just get a flow of misleading information. Speech is silver - silence is gold. Listening to the silence, smiling, establishing good communication throughout time is much better than false answers. Just relax.

If you are SMART, it's a good START.

ABOUT SEX

The same goes for sex. Information is very valuable, and the information which is gathered from the intimacy is even more so.

How to know what turns your partner on?
How to drive your partner wild?

Speech is silver, silence is GOLD. Just use your listening skills.
Do you like this or do you like that? Or "I'm sure you like that, (don't you?)" means probably: "why don't we try this?"

The best way to become a great lover is just to know what your partner really likes. And most of time, you are always served your answers on a silver plate throughout questions.

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In the art of Seduction, there are no second chances.

People do judge you in a split second

- Voice :
I have a friend who is so shy that he doesn't even articulate. People can't get a word of what he says. It brings all of a sudden a weird atmosphere. People frown, so he has to repeat, and it gives a very bad image of himself at the very beginning. This is exactly what you want to avoid.

As you begin wondering: "what am I going to say?", check your pulse. A brief acceleration is normal. If your heart makes Boum-Boum-Boum, and you have difficulties breathing in, then that’s a good sign that you lack confidence. If your voice might not come out easily, then you may need to back up and delay your approach.

Solution:
For God's sake, relax and get a confident voice. Don't stumble. Articulate, and speak it loud. Get your voice out of your mouth. Stop mumbling. I know it's difficult. Try to take a position which helps you to breathe in and out easily. Open your torso and your arms.

You can put a hand on the table or on the wall. Don't speak too quickly, nor too slowly. Open your body. Study famous actors, the way they use their hands, arms, their body position.

Learn your line by heart: Hello, would you know...?"



- Words
Just the way you choose words is very important. Choose them as French jewelers, from the Place Vendome, choose the diamonds to go on a wedding ring. I have a good friend who is a nice chap, but every time he speaks with a girl, he uses very straight or dominant language. It does betray him right away. His compliments are too direct, almost aggressive. His style becomes hostile. If he was relaxed, he would never use such words. Be confident and use the magic of strong words softly spoken.

Solution:
- Get rid of negative vocabulary. 1 sentence or 2 maximum, at a time.
- Avoid as well, undermining vocabulary "My father has got a small car, I have a small job, a small salary, and a very small bedroom." You just transmit wrong signals like you have a small personality, small breast or small penis.

- Just be assertive, positive and enthusiast. And all the girls or guys will be excited by your experiences. The conversation will be flowing like a river. They will drink up your words like fresh water. And you will be solid as the mountain.



- Shifty look
You look like a vampire, ready for a bad action and looking to **** blood. Are you preparing for a fly by night operation or for seduction? Please choose, because you can't do both. Shifty looks are the signs that you're hiding something, as if you were guilty.

Solution:
- There is nothing wrong in looking at people because you think they look good. Don't stare at people, but look normal. Be proud of where you look. And if you are interested , just talk.



- Smell
I just heard the Atomic Kitten, famous girls band in Europe, saying about the Prince Charles. "He's nice"..."and he smells good!"
Don't go to a date if you feel you smell more like a repellent. Remember, you want to attract?

Solution:
Be healthy. Have some kind of physical exercise every day. Be clean.
Be fresh, 24/7. Make sure your car, your office, your lift, your flat is as fresh as the air of the Alps. Have a shower minimum twice a day.

And always be top of the top, before meeting your potential lover. Use deodorant, after-shave and eau de toilette. I strongly recommend something special like "Yves St Laurent", because if you smell good, people will ask you what you are wearing.

- " Yves St Laurent." sounds good
- " I don't know, or, cheap stuff Garbage-night from Super-Ultra Cheap," does NOT sound good.


- Skin
I know a guy who is quite handsome. But he is always nervous and he keeps on sweating. A greasy skin is not the best turn-on.

Solution:
Use a handkerchief to wipe and clean your face.
Acne: you have tons of products on the market, but the best bet would be to try to stay healthy.

- Let your skin breathe: no heavy make-up.
- Let your body breathe: stay away from fat, oil, butter, cream, cheese. Eat less and eat green vegetables and fruits.

Avoid the sun as it makes yours skin harder. The sun will wipe away your spots for the first days, but after a while it will be : "Spots, the Return."


- Clothes:
Look at you in the mirror. Honestly, what do you look like? Do you truly believe that you are attractive? Come on, a bit of common sense, and make an effort.

Solution:
Clothes are like a uniform which give you a rank and a position in the day-to-day civilian life. Who are you? What do you want to show? If you're not sure, don't take risks. By trying to be fashion, you get easily out of fashion.

Guys:
Don't take chances. You need to be dressed well, no matter what. So, design your uniform: the way you are dressed the best. Navy blue, white, dark, beige. Green if you have green eyes.


- Hair
I was once interested in a girl, Claire, very pretty, brunette with green eyes. We were having a hot chocolate in a bistro on the Champs Elysees. She was wearing a training sweatshirt, when I saw she had dandruff in her cap: Thank you, Good bye.
In the art of Seduction, there are no second chances. You pass or you break.

Solution:
- again, be healthy. Stay in good condition. Avoid stress and pollution.



- Your nails
As soon as you speak with somebody, when people don't look at your face, they look at your hands or at your shoes. I remember a book from Conan Doyle where the famous detective Sherlock Holmes was able to know exactly the job of one of the suspect, just by looking at his hands. Please note that hands are very revealing of the way you live, and of your character. Tobacco, bite nails, hurt, injured, grease, nail-varnish and even the color of the varnish...

Solution:
- Don't bite your nails. Avoid stress. Wash your hands regularly and properly.



- Shoes
Shoes have to fit. Black shoes can go almost with everything. Please be extremely careful and ask for advice when you go in other colors. Many men have been ruled out of the Good list because girls knew they would never be able to introduce them to their friends as they looked like clowns. I give you a tip: when you have a hard time judging somebody, look at the shoes. They will tell you more than you want to know because shoes don't lie.

Solution:
- Get nice classic shoes.



- Breath:
Who do you think is going to enjoy your garlic breath? Do you think a tobacco, wine or beer breath gives you a plus?

Solution:
- Always brush your teeth after a meal. Please don't use chewing-gum. You saturate your teeth with sugar, they don't need it, nor your stomach. Just be healthy.

At a party, drink less, but get the guts to talk to people that you are interested in.

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The heaven's sound is composed inside your heart, listen to its beat to syncronize your life onto the angel's steps.

QUESTION
Life is not easy. I don't know, it seems to me that it's extremely difficult to talk to girls around here. I hope you can help me. What make girls attracted to guys? Do I need to look like a millionaire or what?


ANSWER
Girls are looking for handsome, confident and sexy guys. But girls from big towns, such as Paris or New York, are slightly different. No doubt these girls are more difficult to seduce if you come with a small town approach.

Of course, I could say something different in order to be nice. But I am not nice, and you know that my job is to gather facts and present them, unvarnished, to my readers. In less than one second, when walking in a store or in a pub, Men can arouse sexual interest in Women. Or NOT. I am sure that many girls are looking at you, mon ami, because you have what they need. But... you have to work on your style and the way you approach women at the very beginning. Get more subtle and confident. Have a look at a few romantic comedies to understand better feminine values and what girls are looking for in a guy.

When a girl is looking at you, do you appear in her top 5 sexy guys, or does your competition? If you're listed but not within the first two or five in her instant results, YOU LOSE. No matter how many efforts you can do further on.

In general, Girls like Men who do sports, are active, are not too possessive and who make them laugh! AFCH: Active, Fit, Confident, Humor. It's not that difficult, but most guys blew it from the very beginning because they are acting like braggarts. Why? Because they are not confident. If you're really good, you don't have to shout it on the roof. I suggest that you talk less and listen more. As long as a girl hasn't touched you twice, don't do anything because in the end, Man decides, the Woman makes him decide. You need to perceive Sexy signals before moving in. Make sure the girls feel they are important 200%, and let them think they are getting their own way. Got it?

And for heaven's sake: stop acting. Be yourself. Because girls are looking for the real you!

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The heaven's sound is composed inside your heart, listen to its beat to syncronize your life onto the angel's steps.

How to become a better lover?

The French kiss is sensual and exciting. Such a kiss can make your love and desire catch fire. French kissing has as much powerful effect as striking a match on the prairie covered with straw, in the summer heat, when the sunset sets the sky ablaze.

How to be sensual and the best in the most intimate kiss...

Get a sensual mouth. Brush and floss your teeth. Drink water. A fresh and healthy kiss is the most erotic French kiss.
Clean hair and body. Shave, after-shave. Shower and shampoo.

Look at your partner innocently or dominantly
Get closer and kiss softly
Begin gently licking your lover on the lips
Feel the responding satin tongue roaming your mouth
Visit your partner's mouth, slowly.
Time after time, get deeper and more intimate.
The best French kiss takes time.
Push your tongue into your partner's mouth, or let you lead
Don't give your mouth all of a sudden.
Don't take over your partner's mouth immediately. Let the fire spread slowly.
Show resistance, to get more desire.
Close your eyes and let you blown away in the wind of passion
Bite your partner's lip with your teeth. Gently.
Look at your partner lovingly.

How to fan the flames...

When you stop to breathe in, let your breath caresses your partner's face in a murmur like the embers caressed by the wind
Close down the kiss shortly to provoke frustration and get an immediate back-draft
Play with your hands. Press your bust, your body against your lover's
Sensual sounds. Intimate moans. Press your body closer.
Arouse desire. Increase your breathe, and share your excitement.


Passionate French kiss. Take and give everything immediately, and spread like a sensual explosion.
Let your hands wander away, run your fingers through your lover's hair, caress shoulder, back, breast..
Feel the skin on the forearm, the inside is more sensitive
Go under the shirt without being invited, travel on the back and front, and get as intimate as you can.
Press your body against your lover's and let the fire break out inside...


French kiss definition an explosive surge in a fire occurring when 2 pairs of lips are suddenly mixed with a combustible desire.


Note: The French kiss is not only about the contact of 2 pairs of lips. Extend and use the powerful attraction of the sense of smell and touch. Breathe in and out, blow the sensual breeze, smell and perfume, soften your taste, warm up eye-contact, body-contact, murmur and moans, and you'll be blown away by the wind.



You have seen it done often in the movies and probably on the street in darkened corners. The French kiss is a timeless and passionate gesture of romantic affection. Whether you live in Paris, France or Paris, Texas, you can learn how to kiss like the French do without an embarrassing faux pas!


Steps

1. Freshen your breath. You never want to have bad breath when you are about to kiss someone, whether the kiss is a French kiss or not. Because your mouth will be open in a French kiss, fresh breath is especially important. Practice good dental hygiene. Carry mints with you if you think there is even so much as a hint of a chance you might kiss. Avoid foods that leave an unpleasant aftertaste or residue, particularly garlic, onions, milk, and corn.
2. Moisten your lips. Dry lips do not move well together, but you do not want them to be dripping wet either. Just a light brush of your tongue over your lips will be sufficient to moisten them. A little bit of lip balm can help, too, but be warned, lipstick can be awfully messy so blot before you kiss.
3. Angle your head. If your mouths meet dead-on, your noses will get in the way, and you will not be able to kiss deeply or smoothly. To avoid this, tilt your head slightly to one side. Make sure you do not both tilt your heads to the same side.
4. Close your eyes. As you approach for the kiss, look into your partner's eyes, but, once you are close to theirs, close your eyes. It can be a bit of a turnoff to be kissing and going cross-eyed .
5. Start with a gentle and soft closed-mouth kiss. The French kiss is an open-mouth kiss, but do not lunge in with your lips agape like you're going to eat them; instead, open your lips very slowly. If you were learning to speak French, you would probably start with the basics, vocabulary and grammar, before trying to write poetry. Well, the French kiss is like the poetry of kissing, and before you can be good at it, you have to master the closed-mouth kiss. Even after you have added French kissing to your romantic repertoire, it is usually better to start a kiss with closed lips.
6. Go Dutch on the decision to French. Kissing should be a shared decision. You need to have permission to French kiss someone, but when your lips are locked with your theirs you may not want to stop and ask, "Hey, this is great, but can I put my tongue in your mouth?" Open your lips slowly and just a little during the kiss so that one of your lips is sandwiched between theirs and one of theirs is between yours. As you are locking and re-locking lips, brush your tongue against your partner's lips ever so slightly. This should make it clear that you want to French kiss. If your partner's tongue does not respond in like fashion or if they pull away, you will have to save the French kiss for another time when you are both ready.
7. Explore with your tongue. If you and your partner seem to be enjoying the open-mouth kiss, slowly try to open your mouth a little bit more and gently push your tongue a little farther into their mouth. The tongue is very sensitive, and the mere act of touching your partner's tongue with your own will be very pleasant and stimulating for each of you. Do not stick your tongue too far into the mouth, as this can be a big turn-off. Instead, just gently and playfully touch tongues.
8. Go Slow. Passionate kisses are good sometimes, but to really enjoy a French kiss, you must take it slow. Do not hurry and take time to explore each other's mouths.
9. Mix it up. Kisses are like snowflakes: no two are exactly the same. Once you finally feel comfortable French kissing someone, it is tempting to try to do the same thing every time. Add variety. Sometimes kiss deeper, for example, and other times pay more attention to the lips than the tongue. Hold the kiss longer or shorter and explore the art of kissing. When something feels good for each of you, do not abandon it for the sake of variety.
10. Read Body Language. Everybody kisses a little differently, and each person enjoys different things in a kiss - there is no "right" way to kiss. What separates good kissers from bad is an ability to read a partner's body language and be responsive to their partner. Of course if your partner pulls away or seems uncomfortable at any time, understand that you have to slow it down. Listen for cues that tell how much your partner is enjoying a particular kissing maneuver. If you hear a sigh or moan, or they begin kissing you back with increased intensity, realize that they are responding with fervor.
11. Develop your style. Good French kissing, like good kissing of any kind, requires practice. You will get better as you do it more. In addition, the more practice you have with one person, the more comfortable you will feel kissing them and developing a style that suits both of you.

Tips

• Breathe! Forgetting to breathe is probably the most common French kissing error. Do not hold your breath--everybody needs to breathe, and it is a lot more awkward when you have to pull away gasping for air than if you're breathing normally. Breathe through your nose, and try to keep a normal rhythm. As you and your partner grow comfortable with the kiss, you can try breathing through your mouth a little: sharing breaths as well can be romantic (but not everybody likes it).
• Teeth are a sensitive subject. You definitely do not want to bump teeth with each other. It is not only awkward, but can hurt as well. It might inevitably happen at times, so do not worry when it does. You may want to try rubbing the backs or fronts of the teeth of the other person with your tongue. This can create a ticklish feeling that might enhance your kiss. Not everyone enjoys having someones tongue rubbing on their teeth, and many do not like to touch teeth with their tongue.
• Not everybody likes to be kissed the same way, so while your former partner might have enjoyed one method of kissing, your new love might not. You need to learn to read signals and adapt to a style that's comfortable for each each of you. This works in reverse, too. Just because someone doesn't kiss you like you are used to does not mean they are a bad kisser. As long as you are not uncomfortable with the kiss, try to be open-minded, as you just might like the new style.
• Be an active partner. If someone is French kissing you and you want them to do so, do not just sit there but get into the kiss. Reciprocate their actions, and alternate taking the lead on the movements of your tongues and lips. If you are uncomfortable with any part of the kiss, do not be afraid to pull away or gently close your lips. This will give your your partner the hint.
• There are no rules for how long you should hold a kiss. If you feel uncomfortable at any time, break the kiss; otherwise, just enjoy it until one or both of you slowly pull apart, usually together. It is extremely romantic to lightly **** your partner's upper or bottom lip as you part. You might find yourselves returning to kissing, after each of you takes a breath.
• Use your hands. Your hands are important to kissing, and you should use them to make the kiss more romantic. Gently hold your partner's face with your hands on their cheeks and their neck, or wrap your arms around your partner in an embrace. The most important thing about using your hands is that you respect your partner's boundaries. Play with their ears or run your fingers through their hair, as this is very stimulating. The second most important thing (much less important than the first) is that your hands should do something. Don't just let them hang at your sides; it will seem like you're not into the kiss, and you'll look like an ape.
• Talk about it. A lot of people have difficulty talking about intimacy, but open communication is important to all parts of a relationship. If you really like the way your partner kisses you, let them know. If you don't like something, also let your partner know that, but approach it delicately and compliment them at the same time on something they did that you liked. Even if the kiss goes all wrong, it can still be an intimate affair if you can both laugh about it together!

Warnings

• When you use your tongue to nudge your partner's lips, don't press hard, and don't keep trying if they do not want to open their lips. Do not force a person into a French kiss as your partner will resent you if you do.
• Offer your partner a breath mint, and take one yourself before kissing. This ensures that you won't be recoiling from your date nor they from you.
• To some people a hard tongue is a turn-off. Keep tongue and lips soft and supple...think of the pressure used to lick a soft servie ice cream cone, no probing with a stiff tongue unless the other enjoys it. use variations too to mix it up. Now go practice!
• You can still French kiss if one or both of you has braces, but you should be careful to prevent the braces from touching each other. Also avoid touching the braces with your tongue (you could cut your tongue).
• Excessive saliva can build up during a French kiss, and that can interfere with the romantic moment. Swallow periodically without breaking the kiss. If you have trouble doing that, do not be afraid to pull away for a moment.
• If you ever feel uncomfortable or do not want to move forward with any move your partner is attempting, pull away and let your partner know that you want to stop. Be firm. It's OK to say no.

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umm administrator we got the idea when u wrote this u were with ur g/f
im j/k good ones

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