My boyfriend was recently hospitalized for depression and at the moment we don't know exactly how long his stay is going to be or what kind of outpatient treatment his release might entail. I've been reaching out to my close friends at this point and some say that I need to get out. That thought never crossed my mind...I want to stand by and help him through this but part of me is afraid that if I do he may break up with me like he has tried before because he thinks that I deserve better than him. I love him with all my heart and soul and just want him to get better and if that means I have to step back then I will but I'm not sure what my part should be. If anyone has been in this situation any kind of advice that you could give me would be appreciated. I don't want to leave him...I'm in this for the long haul in my opinion but if its better for him that I'm not there then I'm willing to make the sacrifice...any opinions?

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You sound like a wonderful person, and I think that staying by him is the best thing you can do. It sounds like you truly love him and want to help take care of him. I say you should do all that you can to help him recover. If he pushes you away, than do what you feel is best at that time. But, dont start out running away from him. You will know what to do when the time comes!! Good Luck and I wish you all the best!! God Bless!

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Dont leave him. He really really needs you right now. I know I've had my share of problems and my boyfriend had always been there for me. Without him I dont know where I would be. I have said things to him in the past that werent very nice and I never thought he deserved me. We split up for 2-3 months and both our worlds were rocked hard and really ****ed. Now that were back together were working on things together. If you really loved your boyfriend you will be there for him and your will both get through things together. If it was meant to be it will happen. Good Luck

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If you are committed to him emotionally & want a long-term relationship, there is no reason to get out. You can be a good support for him. You can help him get a good psychiatrist, therapist, and good medicine he may need.Just be careful that helping him is not distracting you from *your* life and accomplishments. If helping him means you can't go to college, get a good job, etc., then be sure you get your life back on track in a solid way, before you take care of him.

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I'm very sorry to hear that. I myself am cyclothemic and at times I'm convinced I'm destined to be alone and I chase women away. Most of the time I don't want them to have to put up with my madness but deep down I know that's just the depression talking. If you want to stay by his side and help him I think you deserve a medal. It'll be a difficult journey and you'll have to stay strong. You'll have many ups and downs but if your love is pure and you can love him no matter what, then I think that's the best thing you have going for you. He'll be OK. It will be just as difficult for him. Just stay strong, be patient and if that is really what you want to do, it will work out. Good luck and God bless.

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You said you "just want him to get better" but what if he doesn't get better? What then? If he has tried to break up with you before, you should probably listen to him even though it is hard for you. You should step back and go out with your friends. You cannot love a depressed person back to health.

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Depression is one of the worse thing that a person can have. BUT your boyfriend will need the support and if you love him then stand beside but do not let him abuse you in any way. He must want to overcome this depression and must have the desire to work within himself to overcome and not rely on the Doctors to push a pill into his gut. I had depression and the thing I found helped most was sun light. Lots of it!!! He must really want to get over this depression or it won't happen.

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You are never the cause of your BF's depression.You should ask your boyfriend's doctor to be treated nutritionally for depression.Please read the under-mentioned articles and discuss with the doctor. Ask for a referral to a Nutritional Doctor or a Clinical Nutritionist.































Depression is a Nutritional Diso

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If someone wants to break up with another person it is best to let them do that. The fact that he is depressed has little to do with that. Standing by him is one thing, but staying when he wants you gone is another. Try talking to him and asking him if he really wants you to leave if he says it again. If not do not burnden him with your worries. I hope he feels better soon.

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There are reasons why he is depressed a big reason for someone to be depressed is betrayal. I know that I have felt so betrayed or hurt by people I cared about that when I find someone that I commit to I basically test them to try and see if they will leave me if I have even the worst problems. I feel if you stay with him you are being a taking on very important supportive role which is needed to help him regain his self value. I'm not saying this will fix everything he needs also to be able to talk out what is bothering him to begin to heal from his past. I know it takes a lot of support and work but, depression can be corrected and that person can feel better. He has to want to or believe he can improve, which is a big reason people don't even try to work out their problems. You are a very sweet and caring person and he knows that, it will take a lot of reassurance to convince him that he is good enough to be with you. It is also very important that you don't make him feel like he is being judged, tell him these things sometimes happen and it is not your fault, but that he can change it to make himself happier. When you are in a hospital like he is nothing makes you happier than a visitor or phone calls, unless he feels embarrassed or something and asks you to not visit him I would visit him as much as you can. The soonest he will be out is 72 hours They try to keep you a week sometimes 2, and in the worse case I have seen it take 22 days to get out. I am guessing it will be a week at the most though.

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