do you know someone who commited suicide?

pink girl · #1 02-07-2007, 09:55

hello everyone, just to say that i know someone who did it a year ago, my mother ,and i just want to have a bit of comfort thinking that i'm not alone going through that sort of grieving.thank you for your answers

aramos911 · #2 02-07-2007, 10:16

yeah, i've known 2 people who've committed suicide, it's horrible at first, but you learn to accept it, life goes on, the last thing they would've wanted is for you to have a horrible life.

Eleni K · #3 02-07-2007, 10:25

i know someone who commited suicide, it hurts. the fact that he decided to end his life, and not god hurts a lot... you'll be fine though, time heals every wound. no matter how deep it is...

BlueGIÂ®L · #4 02-07-2007, 11:07

I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your mother, my heart goes out to you. (hug)My boyfriend's brother committed suicide a few years ago, he drank a bottle of anti-freeze. I guess he was about to be evicted from his apartment, also he was gay. If you have a chance, and you haven't already, read the book "A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius" by Dave Eggers. It is one of my favorite books. Both of his parents die, he writes about his tales in a humerous but realistic way. Please read it as soon as you get the chance, you'll love it. :-))

jason d · #5 02-07-2007, 11:15

my best freind 4 years ago in october i miss him

KAZU O · #6 02-07-2007, 11:36

How sad you must have been ! such aã€€cruel memory. it must be a great pain to live on with that memory . i admire your spiritual stamina and i really really hope you find good people to talk with . even cyber -friends I had an acaintance whose husband killed himself some time ago.

nettyone2003 · #7 02-07-2007, 12:05

I was really sorry to hear about your mum. It must have been an awful time for you. I hope that this help you a little.I knew knew a young lad who shot himself in the head after taking his mum's car and bumping it. He was 16. It was a small commumity but the turn-out at the funeral was amazing - standing room only. He was my friends little brother. This happened over 20 years ago now. My friend says that the pain fades in time, and she remembers the happy times when they were growing up, but she will never forget hearing about it (she was pregnant at the time) and will never forget him.She also says that what helped her was believing that there is a place for every child in Heaven, so she will see him again one day.In time the pain of grieving will fade and you will come through this time. I lost my mum to cancer, which is different I know, so I only know a lilttle of what you are going through. I wish you strength and comfort, Lynette

Spawnee · #8 02-07-2007, 12:15

Firstly, I am very sorry to hear of your loss. I know a couple of people in my lifetime personally that have committed suicide (I am 32 now to put this into context). However, I am a mental health professional, and have seen many clients over the years that have also committed suicide. When I was 17 a friend's younger brother committed suicide at the age of 15 after experiencing years of homophobic bullying. He poisoned himself. I didn't know him very well, other than seeing him at my friends house when I went round to visit, but he was a lovely guy, he had so much going for him. Sadly, so much bigotry in school age kids. The second person I knew personally was a friend, who jumped off a high rised car park. He had been suffering depression for quite some time.

curlywurly · #9 02-07-2007, 12:25

my husbands friend did it 8 years ago. he found out his wife was having an affair and couldnt cope with it. he hung himself in the woods. he left 4 kids under 12. it is selfish but still personal choice. his wife moved her lover into their home straight after the funeral.

mammon · #10 02-07-2007, 12:35

I have, but it was 22 years ago. All i can say is that, initally you will be VERY angry at the person, then you will cry buckets and get depressed. After which you will be sentimental, and eventually be able to go through the days and weeks without thinking badly of the person, but cherish what you had.

happy chappy · #11 02-07-2007, 13:25

yes 2 good friends committed suicide, each one years apart. the 1st one I was at school with & lived for years 3 doors away.the second was a friend from my local. we used to chat and have a drink and go to various bars-3 or 4 of us.when I heard of each 1 i was devistated but that`s life. I felt sorry for the people left behind.sorry for your loss but things do get better.

ufo18 · #12 02-07-2007, 14:26

sorry but before or after ? sometimes you know a person more after, but not in your case being your mother, just remember the good times and i am sure there must have been many, but like me i had two friends many years ago who not seen for a long time only to find that had happened to them , but i found out more about them after

Phajja · #13 02-07-2007, 14:35

Yup! I have got two, very close friends, which attempted for it but.....

pilgrimspadre · #14 02-07-2007, 14:46

Hi!You are far from alone. My guess is that most people will know someone during their life who took their own life. Its always tragic and leaves people feeling bewildered.Of those I know, the one that still puzzles me most is a special forces officer who left his parachute behind on purpose when jumping from a plane. He was a good man who had saved a lot of lives. Its sad that many young people who have not yet worked out the pattern of life take such a decision at a time when they are at their most vulnerable and things seem unbearable. If only they hung on, the wonder of life would have opened up to them.People often try to work out what they could have done different that might have prevented the person taking their life. In the case of those tormented by bullies, the bullies need to do some serious self-examination, but in most cases there was little anyone could have done.We must give people who take their own lives the dignity of accepting that they took the decision. It may puzzle us - but it was their choice.Good wishes.

Makeshift · #15 02-07-2007, 14:55

Live In The OBe assured, you're experience is not the 1st or the last!We are left with unanswered ?Yet life goes on! I feel for your family as I did mine when my husband shot himself! \WHY????? Only God Knows!