Whenever my mother has a birthday cake made for me professionally, no bakery ever spells my name correctly. My mother will stand there and write it out for them, along with instructions and they still get it wrong. Every time.

I was named for both of my grandmothers. (I never give my real name on a public forum--so I'm going to use MaryJane as a generic example.) To give equal recognition to both, my name is not hyphenated (Mary-Jane), there is no space between the two base names (Mary Jane) and the second base name is not lower-case (Maryjane). It's MaryJane.

Although I don't prefer to use my real name in social settings, I still treasure it because I love my grandmothers. It is stressful to pay full price for a professionally done cake only to have to stand there in the bakery and tell them to redo the name after they have been explicitly told how to do it in the first place. Is there any way this can be avoided in the future?
Changing my name or using a nickname is not an option. To change my name would hurt one or both of my grandmothers and it would definitely hurt my mother. To use a nickname or a different spelling would hurt my grandma "Jane." (Since "Mary" would be getting all the recognition.)

"MaryJane" is not the actual name, just the pattern my name follows, so a cool initial nickname such as "MJ" will not work. Mainly because the two names are not Mary and Jane and the two letters in my name, used as initials, tend to stand for something insulting.

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