She doesn't want sex and said it's fine if I go with another woman, now she's...

Sealjr · #1 13-07-2007, 17:25

...pissed...? Two years ago my son was born. Since then my wife doesn't want to have sex. Sex is important to me. But she no longer has a desire. She told me on three seperate occasions it was ok to have another woman. Now I did it and she's pissed off. What the hell is going on?

Juana B · #2 14-07-2007, 07:57

Why would you cheat on your wife?! Why did you believe her. You could have gotten your own wife a little typsy or try other ways to make her come around. You need to make it up to her ASAP!! Otherwise be prepared to be taken to the cleaners, possibly not being there to see your son grow up....

FireFighersWife · #3 14-07-2007, 08:05

She was not serious. No woman that I know actually wants their husband to have sex with another woman. Then there is that fear "since he is having sex with her will he leave me and his family for her".

lcsuka · #4 14-07-2007, 12:05

she could have post natal depression. perhaps there is another reason. would you consider marriage counseling to get to the root of the problem. she might tell you she is OK with you being with another woman, but in reality this must hurt her alot. try to get this sorted without sleeping with other women before it destroys your relationship.

hot one · #5 14-07-2007, 12:15

boy, did you fall for that one!!! see when women have babies sometimes it takes a while for us to get our sexual desires back due to the rise and fall of hormones during birth.she told you to go have sex with someone else to get you off her back. she just never thought you would. now, you have proved to her that she wasn't that important to you for you to wait for her.there's only one thing for you to do, appoligize.be at her mercy and hope she will forgive you.

Kelly773 · #6 14-07-2007, 12:35

You made it plain that you have your needs. You told her about it and she told you to satisfy them elsewhere....she has no right to be mad at you. If she really cared, she would have taken care of your needs herself, regardless of how she really feels about the "act" itself. Also, she would seek help medically for her lack of desire. You didn't do anything wrong, if you can overlook the violating of your vows to each other.

franchesco · #7 14-07-2007, 12:45

i dont no whats wrong with u.2 years is impossible for me.it is ur right 2 have sex.just tell me why u married?just dont tell me cause of love.it was for sex 2.if she doesn't want to have sex be sure that she is sick and take her to psycologist.and please girls dont be selfish.if u can handle it, it doesn't mean the same for guys, thats something impossible for guys to live without sex.i've tried that myself and i was going crazy.after a while any thing could make me on and it was terrible in work place.

raininonsunday · #8 14-07-2007, 13:35

You are a fool for finding someone else. Post partum depression is severe in some women. Did you think she honestly meant it when she said to go find someone else? It sounds like a plea for help, to me.

CSnumber1 · #9 14-07-2007, 13:45

This kind of occurance happens more than you think.During child birth, damage to the vaginal area can cause a decrease in the female sex drive. It could be a mental problem that your wife, after seeing herself pregnant and watching her self give birth may not feel attractive and sexy at all. Also note that if your wife is on any kind of anti-depressent it can severely stunt her sex drive.With all that said, both you and your wife need counseling....now! She will need to see someone by herself so that she can feel comfortable enough to open up. There are obviously things going on that with the advent of you sexing someone else, she is not goint to trust you enough to open up to!Several things for you to know...so listen up! Unless your wife is just a total freak...something you would already know(i.e. thresomes and such), don't ever take her literely when she says confusing non-sense!!! Your wife never meant for you to take another to bed. Shes got hormones running all through her that she never knew she had, she is going to say a lot of stuff that won't make any sense at all.Now what she is not so much pissed off, as she is very, very hurt about(it will come off as pissed), is that you have taken away the "intimate" factor of your marriage and realtionship by sexing someone else! This will take a long time to rebuild. Before I say one other thing to you, you need to know that your situation will not be difficult, especially with a new-born. If your wife is special to you and you think your mariage is worth the work, then go see a counselor soon....very soon. Go to great lengths to say you are sorry...and most importantly...let her be angry. She will say all kinds of things...just let her vent. She is confused and angry at more than you may know!Now...this is for you and that sex drive of yours. Many people have there views on "cheating"! My view is not to be judgemental on the carnal appetites and oppurtunities that are presented to anyone. But I will tell you this, my ex-wifes most exotic fantasy was to see me sexing someone else. I would even talk about it(describe sexing another girl) while we were in the act! But if I told her that I sexed another....Oh my God!!!...she would have blown a gasket!!!!No woman wants to know that another woman can have her man!!! Having someone else was one thing, but telling her did what???? Inside of your head telling her only served to hurt her because you have been angry at her for not satisfying you! So to answer your question, "what the hell is going on?"...you my dear boy have commited the cardinal sin of extra-marital sex....'recklessness!' It is to me where judging someone comes into play, not for 'cheating', but for the recklessness in which they 'cheat'. It sounds to me that you are fairly young and are still learning a great deal about life and women.As many realtionships as 'cheating' has wrecked, I do believe that it has saved just as many. Dude if you have to get it somewhere else make sure that number one, the 'other' girl understands the extent of your relationship with her. She doesnt call you or text you or email you. Be very discreet and do not flaunt! This is about sexual satisfaction, so protect the ones you love. Don't ever tell your wife about another lover....ever!!! If she finds out because you did not cover all the bases...be honest and confess.I sincerely wish you luck through what will be very dificult for the both of you. And I know that there will be more than one person saying that I am encouraging you to cheat...not at all!I am a realist...this is life and we are humans. I know that there is always a chance that in her travels my girl may have a good time with someone for a few days in some far country. But hey as long as she keeps loving me and treating me with respect and kindness day in and out as she has without fail.....I don't want to know anything else!So good luck my man...you will need it!

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