My husband, who I have three kids with, left me for a year claiming to have fallen in love with our friend, came back saying mistake. Won't give up his friendship with her and thinks I should be ok with his feelings. It is tearing me apart each time he "pops down for coffee." Don't say make him choose, he says I have no right to dictate his friends. Just wish he loved me as much as he cares for her. Don't want to split again as kids really missed him and don't want to uproot them, but can't go on crying. Things go well, she gets her paws on him and everything is my fault again. Tried speaking to her years ago when this first started, she says she can't help it. Obviously spoken to husband, he says he can't help feelings and I should be glad he's honest and it hurts him to know I feel this way.

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throw him out and dont have him back,obviously let him see the children as they will want that stability,but as things stand you are not giving them that.Most importantly you need to look out for yourself,he is treating you like dirt,having his cake and eating it..Be firm and get out of your relationship with him,you need to find someone in time that is going to be commited to you,that will give you love,honesty and security you deserve! As for your 'friend'..she isnt a friend,sorry. Get out,make some new ones who will appreiciate you and in time the rest will follow.It will be hard but you need to stay strong and focused. Your children and you come first always.

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Honey...he is still doing her...You may not be able to dictate who his friends are but you have every right to tell him to stop hanging out with the woman he left you for...what an insensitive p r i c k....you need to give him an ultimatum, you or her, and stick to it. He will do this only as long as YOU let him. He's double dipping and bringing it back home to you. Don't you realize you are better than that? Don't you know that being alone is so much nicer than sharing a penis with a so-called "friend". He came back because he knew you would give him what he wants but you would also put up with his other activities...he is stepping all over and your kids are watching. He is worthless, absolutely a waste of your love, your spirit, your youth, and your happiness. He will not change, so let those disgusting dogs lay together, she can have him. Please, you HAVE to know that the affair is still going on. Dont be blind to it, this is your life, now take control, go listen to irreplaceable by Beyonce, and tell him to pack his crap and go...as doctor phil says, kids would rather be from a broken home, than live in one. This one looks pretty busted to me, and he is doing it to your kids every time he does it to you. YOU DONT NEED HIM! ....worthless

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look!! I'm going to be honest here with you! Ive went through a very very similar situation with my parents but we are ten years on from her finding out! it never worked out eventually it tore away at my mum and she was so depressed, my father denies being with this woman yet still being caught with her by my friends, husband and myself! because my mum stayed with my dad for ten years and felt exactly the same way you are, she changed as a mother and person. this affected all of us( the kids) you say not to tell you to ask him to choose but i think you have answered your own question here! if he really loves you then he will choose. your feelings should mean more to him then a 'friendship'....get rid! he doesn't deserve you! how would he feel if it was the other way around!!!

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It's a hard choice, but not for your husband, for you. This is yours and your kids life. Your kids may not say anything but believe me they know and are suffering just as much as you, but in silence. It sounds like you husband knows he can have his cake and eat, he's walking all over you. Kick him out and start a new happy life. It will be best for you and the kids to resolve this sooner rathr than later.

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i wonder how he would feel if it was reversed... and you were friends with a friend of his... seems to be he has thought about it... and does not like the idea of the maintainance payments he would have to meet each month... next time he goes for a coffee - leave it for 30 min and call down yourself using some excuse shee whats happening... or get a detective on him get a few pix of their 'friendship' there is obviously more to it than he or her is letting on... faced with a few pix he will either dumb her or you can throw him out where he belongs... see if she wants to be his friend then.... good luck...

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if you cant get over it, you defo need to split up!! it's ok sayin its for the sake of the kids but 1 day they are goin to leave home, and you have spent miserable years crying over your husband!! you will end up even lonlier when its just the two of you so i would get your strength back together and go, cos if he loved you that much he wouldnt remain friends with the other woman, he's kinda takin the p*** out of u!! why should you be the only 1 suffering?

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