aug 10 is the date. we've known eachother since jan. 1date, went out, week later talked about marriage, month later got the rings, he proposed n all we have left is invitations. everything went by fast. he's my best friend tho n i can c myself happy with him. problem is i still have feelings for my x. just been trying to ignore it. closer the wedding comes the scarier it is. we'd get married in tx. my parent are going thru divorce cuz dad tried 2kill mom so things r. if i get married i'd b away from everything in wash, away from problems n just b w/my bf. so y hasn't my cold feet left? y do i still havefeelings 4my x. he was my high school sweetheart, i left him 4religion n stuff, he's in the air force. we talked months ago. he still loves me n would come back in a heartbeat. i still have feelings 4him. can't talk 2him now cuz his school so he's waiting come aug when he's back 2c if i married or not. i donno what 2do. he has a gf n my fiance n i r perfect 2gether. how do i get over x?

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Marriage is not anything to do in your situation. Marriage isn't easy and you gotta have a lot of love to stick it out. You are not ready to be married if your feeling for the other dude. Be smart call off the wedding..tell your fiance your not ready yet!

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you have to ask yourself which one will make you happier and if your problems with ex would come back up and jeopardize your marriage again

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If you still have feelings for another guy you cant marry. If your fiancé really loves you, he'll wait till your ready.And maybe you have cold feet because it all went way too fast. You know, you're not forced to marry. If you left your ex only for religion reasons, thats not a real reason, which explains why you still have feelings for him and him for you. Religion is not made to separate 2 people.If I were you, I'd suspone the wedding and wait till I'm completely ready. SInce your saying you still have feelings for your ex, that means your hesitating between which one you want to spend the rest of your life with. Dont worry, its not a decision you have to make quick like that, you have all your life to decide, dont rush into something you'll regret later. Wait till true love calls..

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I think you need to take a time break for yourself and think all of it thoroughly. You seem so tangled right now because of what happen both now and the past. You don't want it to ruin your future too. Getting over somebody isn't an easy job esp. if he's your first love and said he still likes you etc. Though so you guys have been away from each other for sometimes and each of you has found someone else. Take a break and let your brain and heart work it.It's your decision but be wise. Good luck

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list the good things about your ex and the man your gettin married to.then list the bad things about them. compare the person that has the most good things and the less bad things then the other.hes probly the bst choice. if that dosen't work then pick the one you feel the best with.and another thing be careful if you choose the ex make sure he still likes you the same way you do.

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You sure have yourself a mess going on but not to worry with some help and a strong will you can make it through this whole mess. OK first off you are dealing with two guys feelings, which is a mess in it's self. First off you sound like the run a way bride. Well your not a bride yet and that is the catch right there. You have a right to change your mind when and how often you wish. When you marry someone you should be absolutley for sure or it is not meant to be. I don't believe in colf feed. Cold feet is your own conscious telling you what is right and what is wrong. You need to listen to this inner voice since this is God's way of helping us when we are not even sure what's going on. We all need to listen to our conscious because, this is what can lead us into rightious paths or some pretty bad paths also. If you know what I mean. I know I have gone against my conscouios and ended up in a mess many times. That little voice that tells us no no no. Anyway you seem to be hearing that inner voice and you are wrestleing with this. You already know the answer girl. You look back on your own post. Read it and see what you have wrote up there. You still love this other man. But you have to ask yourself this... does he really love you and is he willing to give you a good life like this man that you may marry? Does he call you like the one you have now? Who makes you laugh and who is there when yuo cry? who comes in the middle of the night when you need someone to look outside because you heard a noise? Who is not dating anyone else besides you? What does your heart tell you after you have read my questions? Who do you really love. I was the same way when I married for the first. I was very scared but, once you take the plunge it seems to all be ok and you will love your husband so much. Trust me don't let a good man go for a dream guy. We always want something that we can't have for whatever reason that is. It is human race I guess. I bet if you lost the guy you had nor, then you may want him as much as your ex. Why don't you give it a try. Put the wedding off for a while. Give yourself some space and time away from this man that you are about to marry and then you will know who is for you and who you are for for sure. God Bless You also. Religion is a good thing. Don't be to worried if someone loves God. Be worried if they do not, then I might tell you to aware. But that's just me anyway.Good Luck to you and God is with you!

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