I am one of 5. I was raised by my daddy and didn't see much of my mom when I was growing up.
My mother had cancer and I was with her from the first operation. The oldest child had reservations and didn't want to go to the hospital, but did and then made it all about her. Then took the oppertunity to tell us stories about what our mom did and said to us when we were little. I could of gone the rest of my life not knowing what I know now.
And then when mom got real sick with her cancer my sister got mad when I the second to yongest stepped up and got mom some Hospice Care. We ended up putting her in a nursing home and my sister went in and took her out but didn't take her to her house she took mom back to her house to her husband who could not take care of himself yet alone take care of mom.
We hardly talk anymore.

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Sounds like that sister is selfish and self-centered and didn't know how to handle her grief. My cousins were the same way when my Aunt was dying.

If it is this one sibling that you don't speak with, give it time and continue to periodically contact her.

If it is all of them, try to set up a special day/weekend where everyone gets together to share food & fun.

Good luck & be patient.

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