a week ago i told my husband that i didnt think he loved me and that i didnt want sex with him any more because of this . since then he has made no attempt to show any affection and we havent talked since just pass me the salt etc... what should i do now?

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He is probably hurt cause maybe he feels that he has been showing you love and you just aren't interested in the kind of affection he is showing you.

For example, maybe he takes the trash out, helps with dishes, puts laundry away. Little things that make your day easier. That is him showing love. Maybe he compliments you on things, cooking for example, but you don't see that as loving.

Men look at sex as a way to connect with their wife and as a form of acceptance so he may be ticked off that you would withhold it from him. He may really feel like you don't love him if you are going to be like that.

Don't be a drama queen. If there are serious issues with him not EVER showing you love or affection, then you need to do something about it. If he does little things, take notice of them and say thank you. There's no law that says you can't plan a romantic weekend, nice dinner or trip to a sports event with your husband to reconnect with him. Enjoy your time together. Instead of complaing get in the mindset that you are going to do something positive to change things.

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Communication, communication...... Have you thought about council ling? It sure sounds like you need it.

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Maybe you hurt him with your comment. Sometimes men get upset when they feel they are putting a lot of effort into a relationship and yet we don't see it...

The best idea is probably to set some time aside where you can both spend some time together without any pressures... you are probably both quite stressed with life and sometimes relationships get neglected... take some time off work and just spend some time working on your relationship, spend some time just enjoying each other's company.

If that doesn't work, which I hope it will, then you know there is more to it... Maybe speak to a counsellor, but I think the best first step is to try and work on it together... I have my fingers crossed for you both!

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he might well be upset that thats how you view him. i think if it was me, i'd be crushed if my partner told me that. guys dont always express themselves the way we would like them to. you need to really sit down and be compassionate with him and tell him the truth and ask him whats going on with him, tell him why you feel this way ? all the best

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u need to talk,if you can't or he won't right now then write he a letter be fair and honest with your feelings and thoughts, and you can still show him some affection t help him get back on track cuddles etc little things..good luck xx

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