if you look at my brothers life you would think he has it made. 27 years old works part time goes to school and still lives at home with mom and dad. however on the inside you can see him just falling apart. he has a weight problem, stresses out way to much over things he has no control over, and tend to drink basically because for that moment all his worries just disappear not to mention he is depressed for a number of reasons. but everyone knows that just a for the moment. i love him so much and i dont want him to get hurt. so far in the last few months he has been in the hospital four times. when he drinks he goes all away or nothing. i feel that if doesn't get help im going to get a call that he is dead. how do i put it in the right words that he needs help without him turning on me. i want to help him but i also want to beat him at the same time. give me some advice. thanks in advance

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You are a very sensitive brother and you have a kind heart. Your brother is still young and can get better. Family intervention is the first step in this process. Secondly, he's been in the hospital 4 times and still refuses to give up drinking.It's not the drinking that's really hurting him 100%, it's what's going on in his life that he's keeping in his head. He needs to get with the doctor and set up an interview with a specialist for his weight control.Notice how I did not say diet? That's because he needs to learn how to manage his emotions and therefore he can manage what he eats. When you are on an emotional rollercoaster, you eat foods called comfort foods. These hold alot of things in them that throw your body out of balance and also your internal chemical balance as well. The specialist will explain more in greater detail. Next, he needs to abstain from drinking and he can do this quietly and on his own per say. He needs to find something to do when he gets off of work to break the routine of going home to drink. He can join a club, a society(such as botanical) or join a gym or what ever he feels that will make him happy for that period of time. I broke my alcoholism by keeping occupied and staying away from areas where the pull was the greatest. I still have urges so I go on line and talk to people such as yourself who need to help others in need.
There needs to be a family meeting without the brother so that everyone can be on the same page when the time comes to call a meeting with the brother.Explain to him how you all feel about his disinergration of himself and tell him that you all will be there very step of the way for him. If he resists, hold him down in a chair and make him listen. He has to stop the cycle in his head. He is going tobe in denial and will be that way until someone lakes him see differently.
It won't be easy but it can be done. You and your family are strong. HE HAS TO BECOME STRONG WITHIN HIMSELF IN AN ORDER FOR HIM TO MOVE ON SUCCESSFULLY IN HIS LIFE. Praise him for every step he makes that turns out good. Expect set backs and fall offs. This is normal so be ready for them.Best of luck and the best of wishes for all of you.Take care.

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Write him a letter, have other concerned family members write letters, then you all meet with him and read your letters to him. It's called an intervention. What actions do you want him to take, tell him at the meeting. Since he has been in the hospital 4 times he must have a doctor who is involved in his case, ask that doctor to attend your intervention and give his feedback, as well. Good luck!

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