I know how you would feel, but she is not really abusing her kids... So, a pinch, but it could be MUCH MUCH worse. I would not interfere, and It was probably a bad idea to tell the girls grandfather, as he will most likely approach your friend and she will no longer trust you, especially if the grandfather's son and your friend are no longer together. If it is a big sum of money, I would ask her for it before ending your friendship. If it is a small amount, I wouldn;t worry. I would also get out of the friendship fast!!

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