I am very sorry for your situation. Regardless of what others have said, your faith IS important and has a LOT to do with how you handle this situation. You obviously love your children and want to deal with this in a godly manner. BLESS YOU for that! Christians are SUPPOSED to give God control of EVERY area of their lives 24/7 - not just an hour on Sunday mornings! Unfortunately, it is common for couples with children to use the children against one another - which is COMPLETELY selfish! The children are hurting too, and doing that sort of thing just makes it harder on them. (I'm speaking from personal experience - my parents divorced when I was 4 and my mom was VERY manipulative!)If your divorce is not final and there are no legal documents on file regarding visitation, then your wife has no legal right to refuse visitation (assuming you aren't asking for unreasonable times, like bringing them home late at night if she has to work the next day, etc.) You really don't give enough information (reason for the divorce - who initiated it & why), so the best I can recommend is to follow your lawyer's advice. There's probably something he can do to work out the visitation / joint custody arrangements until the divorce is final. Continue to pray and to place your faith in God. Let the Holy Spirit guide your decision, not your "feelings". btw - I have a friend who is a good mother, has a job and the ability to provide for her sons; but the father had a better lawyer, and HE has full custody of both boys. (I know both parents well. He's an abusive jerk who takes better care of his step-children than his own sons. Go figure...)

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