Same thing happened to my husband when his ex-wife left him. She took his daughter with her & would only let him see her if they all went out together. He didn't just want to visit his daughter. He wanted to continue to be her parent, doing all of the day to day stuff that a parent does. He had no choice but to file for divorce, so that he could get a custody order in place & start having real parenting time with his daughter, again. Once he filed, she absolutely refused him contact altogether until forced to do so by the custody order, months later. But, after it was in place, he had legal recourse available to him -and- he could start building his new life with his daughter during the time he had with her. Get that custody order in place. In the long run, that will be so much better for your children - having certainty instead of whims in their days. Knowing when they will be with each parent. And having each parent knowing what's what, in order to alleviate any arguing.

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