QUESTION

HOW TO KNOW YOUR PARTNER

Speech is silver, silence is GOLD

How to make anyone crazy about you

ANSWER


DON'T ASK, but LISTEN

You will know more about people from their questions than from what they answer to your questions. Why? Their question comes from their heart, their own curiosity. You can almost know what they are expecting if the question is precise. To make it more precise, you can ask: "what do you mean exactly?"

Remember questions
Remember questions you were asked, their aim. Then, you will bring the topic back later on, at your advantage, or seize the chance to grasp it right away. Develop your listening skills, and recognize valuable questions.

"Do you like dogs?"
If a girl asks me with enthusiasm: "Do you like dogs?", I know right away that she grew up with a dog, that the dog has been very important to her. It's as if the girl asked me: "Do you like my brother?"
It is an important question, because it's a great way to connect. I have 2 ways to react and answer.

1. - I hate dogs! I went for a heroic run last night from the Eiffel Tower to Saint-Michel along the riverbank. I had to run the whole thing in a zigzag to avoid the copious amounts of dog shit splashed everywhere, so the actual distance covered was probably twice this!
But the real reason is that I've been bitten by a nasty bastard when I was a kid!

Do you think I'm going to connect with this one? Here I just reveal the fact that I am grumpy, bitter, angry, and scared.

2. - I love dogs! I remember when I was 10 years old, I went to live for 1 month in a farm in the French countryside. And there was that fantastic hunting dog... I think his name was Malko. He was always attached with a leach to guard the house. One day, I was given the possibility to walk him for a bit. We came back 6 hours later. We went for wonderful crazy runs throughout the fields. It was like escaping a prison camp. Then, it started to rain, but we kept on playing and running. It was so much fun. And we came back very late soaked to the skin. It's one of the best moment of my life, because I had found a great companion...

With this one, I click. And I click deep. I could speak for hours. You can see a funny light dancing in the girl's eyes.

Just by being positive, enthusiastic and bringing an anecdote from my childhood, we're getting very close as it's very important for her. I'm getting to the point where we have something in common. And sparks fly!


Do you like music?
Other example: If somebody asks you: "Do you like music?" It means that music is important for that person. You can answer "YES", even if you don't care that much, but keep it in mind for later on.

In one week, you could say: "do you like going to concerts? Yes? I knew it, why don't we go...? For a B-day gift, a CD will be better than a book.
OK?! People will love you because you will fit. They will think: "How did S/He know I really wanted to go to a concert? It's amazing! We really have things in common."

You will be the ONE they were looking for. NOT because you like music, maybe you don't give a damn about music. But simply because you were SMART enough to listen to their questions.

Don't ask too much
If people are reserved, don't come to them with a can opener. They will close down like oysters. Become part of their environment without threatening them and you will be allowed to see them opening, and see the real pearls inside of them.

No need to ask questions and questions, you will just talk a lot of hot air. Getting no answers or false responses won't get you closer from the truth. I noticed that many anxious people keep asking questions because they're worried. Their questions are so direct, that it's very easy to lead them on a wrong track. Probably why they end up very often in cul-de-sac. A flow of questions can just get a flow of misleading information. Speech is silver - silence is gold. Listening to the silence, smiling, establishing good communication throughout time is much better than false answers. Just relax.

If you are SMART, it's a good START.

ABOUT SEX

The same goes for sex. Information is very valuable, and the information which is gathered from the intimacy is even more so.

How to know what turns your partner on?
How to drive your partner wild?

Speech is silver, silence is GOLD. Just use your listening skills.
Do you like this or do you like that? Or "I'm sure you like that, (don't you?)" means probably: "why don't we try this?"

The best way to become a great lover is just to know what your partner really likes. And most of time, you are always served your answers on a silver plate throughout questions.

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The heaven's sound is composed inside your heart, listen to its beat to syncronize your life onto the angel's steps.